There is only one sidewalk of life, but there are two sides to it.
When we are conceived, we are stewarding our relationship with both life and death. There is one
sidewalk- us. There are two sides. The nuanced misunderstanding around this truth is part of the
false boundaries that keep us small.
Our personal sidewalk is experienced moving forward as we are anchored in the 4th
dimension of time.
Most people just walk on the sidewalk. They don’t have to think about it. It is. You just walk.
That was not my journey. I am the exception. So I would walk on the sidewalk of life and as I am
the exception, I kept running into people. It hurts. It smarts. It causes everyone to pay an
opportunity cost of pausing from their walk and tending to the harm that it may heal. It’s a pain
in the ass to be the exception. The black sheep. The minority. The rectangle in a square world.
The gift is that it has allowed me to understand the sidewalk in its sacred, symbolic and
tangible/logical ways that is now a gift for others. Our pain in life is often caused by our blind
spot. We see only one side walk and what it the “right way” to walk down it but have not
developed the nuanced clarity of that though one side walk, two different sides and there’s more
than one space on that sidewalk we can be walking on to get to our destination. We do not have
the understanding, nor the matured gift of intentionality to understand our why we choose what
side of the sidewalk we walk on. Gaining that clarity allows us to navigate the sidewalk in a way
that we can run and not have to pause because we keep running into others because we didn’t
have the clarity of where on the sidewalk in that moment we should be choosing so we could run
the fastest so we could be the Olympian in our lives as our rainbow signature light.
The prioritization matrix.
Where do I walk on the sidewalk?
It depends.
If I am with my kids, on the outside.
If I am with a man, on the inside.
If I am a man with a woman, on the outside.
If I am American, on the right side.
If I am British, on the left side.
If I am alone and want to enjoy the view, the middle.
If I am alone and there’s heavy traffic, then on the inside.
If I don’t know where I am going, then I follow the person who does.
Context determines decision.
Where is the ocean shore? It depends on if it’s high tide or low tide.
There are key axioms that we all are stewarding every day. They are axioms of how to love well
and steward well. Part of the gift of the isolation of my life has been the ability to study what are
the rules of love and stewardship or sex and money as the rules of thumb. Then understand what
their exceptions are. This has allowed me to see the sidewalk of life more holistically and
accurately. To see the opportunity cost of thinking too big and the opportunity cost of thinking
too small. And this is my gift to the world.